LEARN! LEARN! LEARN!

I just think I have to compile these statements--They comes from different forums.



it doesn't seem that this guy wants a relationship with you - and I am assuming that you do.

Have a think about what you want and deserve. You deserve to be in a relationship with a man who gives you 100% loyalty and commitment.

From what you have shared, it sounds like you might be assuming because he is coming to see you that it is a relationship, he might just think of it as a date, or something to do. If you are the one doing the initiating, there is a problem.

No, it doesn't take a lot to text to ask how one is doing. e's not making even that tiny bit of effort. And so, you should refrain from getting attached to him or thinking it's a relationship.

Nothing wrong with keeping in contact as long as he is the one doing the contacting and not you doing all the work.

You ask why you guys shouldn't keep in contact. My question is "Why should you keep in contact?" And to note Wings' point - if you do keep in contact, why should it be you that's always initiating and doing the work?

If he is not that in to you...next!!

Try not to give all of your heart to someone until you know you have all of his and you will know. :) Go easy on yourself.

Do you like him so much that even this giant obstacle isn't enough to allow you to walk away in search of someone who can offer what he can offer but much more frequently? (If yes, state reasons.)

A: I would text him to ask how he is but i feel like i am intruding and it's only been yesterday since he last texted...

Q: Do not. No matter what distance geographically, it's always the man's role in this stage to do the chasing/initiating.

I think you both went into this without thinking. You responded only to your emotional arousal. With the 'froth' blown from the top, then is when you both had room to think, 'What are we doing and why?'

But that's only the conclusion at THIS POINT. If you want the situation to remain crystal-clear judgeable from here on in - DO NOT INITIATE *AT ALL*. Then we'll be able to see what's What more precisely.

don't dream of "having him rescue you from your life." It is highly likely that he won't! And even if he does, then he will control you.

If you feel ignored now, it probably won't change much. He will continue to ignore you even after you are together in his country. His priorities (even if it isn't work) will always come first...not you. If you are ok with this treatment, then get ready for a sad life alone.

be careful about how much you can trust this guy. Whatever you do...don't fall in love with him...you have find out more about him. Ask about his family, his life in his country, etc. Without that you have nothing.

Do ask questions - and lots of 'em all about his life, work and family in the other country. And don't embark on any international journey with him until you know a lot more about him! Worse case scenario, for all you know about him

whatever the reasons, this is not working for you and I would suggest for your own sanity to not expect *anything* from him at this point. We can make ourselves crazy trying to change a person, trying to get them to think the way we do. I know you would handle things much differently regarding a courtesy email or text...But he is *he* and this is not how *he* handles things from what you are saying. We can make excuses till the cows come home, but it is what it is and as sad as that may be for you (and I am sorry about that), please try to accept things for what they are. Don't drive yourself crazy over this. Open yourself up to new possibilities and make sure you get from a man what you deserve...time and respect. :)

I really would not worry at all as to what he's thinking or feeling....just switch off the button in your head and get on with your life.....if he is really interested, he will get in touch. In the meantime, if you can...get out there, have some dates, meet some new people and keep gaining experience all the time.